This week’s episode of Rob and Chyna was all about finding the couple’s Love Language, which got us thinking about how important “love languages” really are in a relationship. According to the 5 Languages of Love quiz that the couple took, they were not compatible, but they were willing to try and tend to each other’s needs despite their different results. So, what about your average, non-celebrity based couple? Is a love language result really that big of a deal? Let’s discuss!
First of all, the 5 Love Languages is a book written by Dr. Gary Chapman, a family counselor, radio host and associate pastor. He has written a few books on love and marriage, and The 5 Love Languages is about the five different ways that one shows or feels love from their spouse. You can even take a quiz to figure out if your compatible with your mate and what your language is.
The five languages of love are: Words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch. All of these describe how you feel most loved and how to make your emotional love better.
The theory behind the practice is that hopefully you and your partner are both speaking the same language, meaning, you both prioritize “quality time” and “physical touch.”
Words of Affirmation
To this person, words of affirmation and love is what they need to feel emotional ties to their loved one and, or, feel appreciated. According to Chapman in an excerpt from his book and republished by Focus on the Family, one way to express your love is to use words that build others up. This can be in the way of compliments on one’s appearance, sweet letters or small pats on the back with your words.